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Looking for Relations: All Above: Dating, Long Term, Friends
The longest relationship Justaguy56 had: 10 years or more
Height: 5'8" (173 cm)
Weight: 175 lb (79 kg)
Hair Color: Brown
Marital Status: Widowed
More about Justaguy56:
I'm pretty old. And not in the best shape. Part of aging it seems. That doesn't stop me from loving or wanting to be loved. Or being my best and being there for my partner so she can be her best. I want love. And marriage. For a lifetime. Maybe much more, but nothing less. You got games, scams, greed, princess or prima donna complexes, then keep going. Have no time or energy for such users, abusers, & time wasters.If you have problems with honesty & telling the truth, if fake or phony, are shallow, plastic, can't or won't communicate , if you can't be open and share yourself, heart, soul, mind, thoughts, feelings, and yes, eventually if we get to that point, body as well with me, then don't bother thinking there's even a tiny chance for us. I want a wife. (With marriage, happiness, home, family, affection, togetherness, sharing, AND if we happen to discover we are soulmates, I'd be thrilled. We have to have some chemistry& attraction to and for each other, some things in common, enough differences to keep the relationship fresh & interesting, and a little spicy even. There has to be a certain degree of compatibility and a measure of suitability for marriage, life, and each other. And finally, for now, we even have to like each other too. And just be able to get along well. Save most of the drama for the theatre,. Only small squabbles, never huge fights. We compromise, apologize, forgive, and never give up. So, if we do have issues, we make up not break up. We love, we care, we understand, we respect, we give, we receive, we hug, kiss, hold hands, giggle, smile, cry when we hurt and have the other dry the tears and hold us. And we just both put 100% into it and make it work. And last. That is the ONLY way it will. No faith or belief in me, yourself, our love and relationship, you've, we've defeated ourselves before we begin. This is life. It can be love. And marriage. It's all crazy, wonderful, confusing, difficult, complex, complicated, messy, at times painful, at times scary, and well you getvit. You know what life is. Yet, that is what is. And what we have to work with. You do your best and you just never stop trying. The day you do that, you no longer live. You just exist. You accept challenges. You learn. You grow. And if you do it together it is so much better and way easier. Y'all this is in anticipation of a 1sdt date, then other dates to follow, and finally love and marriage. (I'd like to say it's all biscuits, gravy, happy sunshine after that. But I have this thing about not lying . So I can't or won't say anyt such thing. It changes, Eventually settles in to a more comfortable togetherness and a measure of peace & tranquility somewhat. You grow to be more accepting and less confrontational. You finally realize that men & women are on the same side, different, but each a 1/2 of the same whole. A shared whole. If you try to navigate it alone, even if married, you'll be alone. And your partner/spouse too. What affects one affects the other. And both have to be just as committed, loyal, faithful, loving, affectionate, kind, honest, trusting & trustworthy, just as willing to give your all, 100%, and work just as hard for each other, your love, and the marriage. (And if children are a part, add that whole other dynamic to the relationship. It can take lots of patience, tolerance, acceptance, understanding, and forgiveness. Being willing to bend, but standing up for yourself & each other without breaking. Things will never be perfect or go as planned. Or hoped for. Couples will disagree. Agrue at times. Get hurt, upset, or mad at each other, But you don't keep things insider or hold onto the anger or the negative stuff. You let it go. If only because if you don't, years later that will be just the things that tears y;all apart. So, you give & take. And sometimes sacrifice yourself, your wants and needs for those of your partner. That is love. Sometimes their needs are greater. Sometim es yours. Sometimes sometime just matters more to one. So do you fight and just have to win. And make the other unhappy when you fight for something that matters little to you. And your partner is fighting for something priceless to him or her. So, is it worth it to win, to have a tiny victory ... that causes your partner pain and suffering. Or forces them to give up something that matters so much to them? That's the example of what love isn't. Or shouldn't be. So, there are times that you just let your partner come first. And you bite the bullet, gri n and bear it...For the sake of the marriage and just because you do love your partner THAT much. Remember that. When you just gotta win, when you are right and have to prove it, when you are being so selfish and things have to be your way or no way at all, REMEMBER how much you love the other person and how important, how much they mean to you. And that in the end, they matter more to you than anything you fight about, have to prove, or want/need for yourself. So, your partner comes first. Is that so terrible? But do that, love that much, show it and your partner will do the same. They will put you, your wants and needs first. When you have your first fight over each trying to do something for the other but neither wants to accept it because you love the other so much, cherish, treasure, value them so highly, and cannot bear life without them, so you just won't put yourself first or be selfish any longer. Won't even allow the other to put you first. When you have THAT fight or disagreement, then you will know you have reached that comfort level, that awareness, that stage of your relationship & marriage that love and the other is more important than anything you have or will sacrifice for the other. And you have learned what love really is, what it means, and how it works. Not just what some poet has written about it or what you've always been told it was or you believed what it meant. When you feel it so deeply and accept all its complexities
I'm pretty old. And not in the best shape. Part of aging it seems. That doesn't stop me from loving or wanting to be loved. Or being my best and being there for my partner so she can be her best. I want love. And marriage. For a lifetime. Maybe much more, but nothing less. You got games, scams, greed, princess or prima donna complexes, then keep going. Have no time or energy for such users, abusers, & time wasters.If you have problems with honesty & telling the truth, if fake or phony, are shallow, plastic, can't or won't communicate , if you can't be open and share yourself, heart, soul, mind, thoughts, feelings, and yes, eventually if we get to that point, body as well with me, then don't bother thinking there's even a tiny chance for us. I want a wife. (With marriage, happiness, home, family, affection, togetherness, sharing, AND if we happen to discover we are soulmates, I'd be thrilled. We have to have some chemistry& attraction to and for each other, some things in common, enough differences to keep the relationship fresh & interesting, and a little spicy even. There has to be a certain degree of compatibility and a measure of suitability for marriage, life, and each other. And finally, for now, we even have to like each other too. And just be able to get along well. Save most of the drama for the theatre,. Only small squabbles, never huge fights. We compromise, apologize, forgive, and never give up. So, if we do have issues, we make up not break up. We love, we care, we understand, we respect, we give, we receive, we hug, kiss, hold hands, giggle, smile, cry when we hurt and have the other dry the tears and hold us. And we just both put 100% into it and make it work. And last. That is the ONLY way it will. No faith or belief in me, yourself, our love and relationship, you've, we've defeated ourselves before we begin. This is life. It can be love. And marriage. It's all crazy, wonderful, confusing, difficult, complex, complicated, messy, at times painful, at times scary, and well you getvit. You know what life is. Yet, that is what is. And what we have to work with. You do your best and you just never stop trying. The day you do that, you no longer live. You just exist. You accept challenges. You learn. You grow. And if you do it together it is so much better and way easier. Y'all this is in anticipation of a 1sdt date, then other dates to follow, and finally love and marriage. (I'd like to say it's all biscuits, gravy, happy sunshine after that. But I have this thing about not lying . So I can't or won't say anyt such thing. It changes, Eventually settles in to a more comfortable togetherness and a measure of peace & tranquility somewhat. You grow to be more accepting and less confrontational. You finally realize that men & women are on the same side, different, but each a 1/2 of the same whole. A shared whole. If you try to navigate it alone, even if married, you'll be alone. And your partner/spouse too. What affects one affects the other. And both have to be just as committed, loyal, faithful, loving, affectionate, kind, honest, trusting & trustworthy, just as willing to give your all, 100%, and work just as hard for each other, your love, and the marriage. (And if children are a part, add that whole other dynamic to the relationship. It can take lots of patience, tolerance, acceptance, understanding, and forgiveness. Being willing to bend, but standing up for yourself & each other without breaking. Things will never be perfect or go as planned. Or hoped for. Couples will disagree. Agrue at times. Get hurt, upset, or mad at each other, But you don't keep things insider or hold onto the anger or the negative stuff. You let it go. If only because if you don't, years later that will be just the things that tears y;all apart. So, you give & take. And sometimes sacrifice yourself, your wants and needs for those of your partner. That is love. Sometimes their needs are greater. Sometim es yours. Sometimes sometime just matters more to one. So do you fight and just have to win. And make the other unhappy when you fight for something that matters little to you. And your partner is fighting for something priceless to him or her. So, is it worth it to win, to have a tiny victory ... that causes your partner pain and suffering. Or forces them to give up something that matters so much to them? That's the example of what love isn't. Or shouldn't be. So, there are times that you just let your partner come first. And you bite the bullet, gri n and bear it...For the sake of the marriage and just because you do love your partner THAT much. Remember that. When you just gotta win, when you are right and have to prove it, when you are being so selfish and things have to be your way or no way at all, REMEMBER how much you love the other person and how important, how much they mean to you. And that in the end, they matter more to you than anything you fight about, have to prove, or want/need for yourself. So, your partner comes first. Is that so terrible? But do that, love that much, show it and your partner will do the same. They will put you, your wants and needs first. When you have your first fight over each trying to do something for the other but neither wants to accept it because you love the other so much, cherish, treasure, value them so highly, and cannot bear life without them, so you just won't put yourself first or be selfish any longer. Won't even allow the other to put you first. When you have THAT fight or disagreement, then you will know you have reached that comfort level, that awareness, that stage of your relationship & marriage that love and the other is more important than anything you have or will sacrifice for the other. And you have learned what love really is, what it means, and how it works. Not just what some poet has written about it or what you've always been told it was or you believed what it meant. When you feel it so deeply and accept all its complexities
Justaguy56's ideas of a fun date:
Various options for fun, but the 1st date is crucial. It must involve being relaxed, having open, honest long onversation, a walk together, maybe a picnic: Nervous, uncomfortable, awkward, anxious, doubtful. That is just the normal 1st date jitters.